You might call it being a side chic or being his other lover, but the truth is no matter how you try to polish it — being his number two woman just sucks and isn’t even ideal in the first place.
Some women love a guy and take solace in being his number two, his adventure and his backup plan, but why choose to be someone else’s backup plan when you can be another man’s number one?
These reasons below just show why being number two actually sucks.
1. YOU LIVE A LIFE OF UNCERTAINTY
This is a sure thing that comes with being his number two woman. Would you ever be his number one? Where would the affair lead to? Would you have a future with him? These are some questions that you might not be able to answer because you are unsure of your role in his life. Being his number two woman only creates a life of uncertainty.
2. HE ISN’T YOUR MAN
If you are to be honest with yourself then you would know that he isn’t your man, you have no control over the situation, your affair with him is a hushed one. When you have a real relationship with a man, he takes pride in you and shows the world just how much he values you, but being his number two woman makes you a secret trophy at best.
3. YOU DEVALUE YOURSELF
A real woman knows her onions and what she’s worth. A real woman knows that she deserves to have a man of her own — a real man who would treat her right and make her feel special – and she understands that she cannot settle for less.
4. IT’S CHEATING
Sugar-coat it how you want, being his number two woman only shows your cheating nature. Cheating, lies, dishonesty and deceit are all what being his number two represents. A genuine relationship shouldn’t have such traits.
5. YOU CAN’T HAVE YOUR MAN ALL TO YOURSELF
What’s the use of a relationship where you can’t have your man all to yourself? As his number two woman, you are never in control of the situation and you can’t have your man to yourself when you want to. When with your own man, you have him all to yourself without fear, excuses or lies.
Being his number two is only an affair of excuses; he makes excuses to be with you, you make excuses why it’s okay to be his number two woman and at the end of the day it’s all excuses.
Being his number two woman just sucks and when you accept being a number two to someone else’s man, you probably deny yourself of being in a real relationship with a genuine man.