Surely, you must have read a lot of relationship rules; a lot of do’s and don’ts’. Well, do you know that you can bend some of those relationship rules for the betterment of your relationship?
Check out some of the rules you can bend to favour your relationship
1. AVOID HAVING A FIGHT WITH YOUR PARTNER
This is a common rule many people have about relationships, but in all honesty, this rule have a lot of flaws. When you avoid the problems in your relationship just because you feel it would harm your relationship, your relationship would still suffer in the long run. It’s okay to quarrel and fight; it only means you are human, but it’s most important to fight fairly.
2. DON’T TRY TO CHANGE YOUR PARTNER
Another common relationship rule is that people shouldn’t try to change their partner, but I think this rule can also be bent to save your relationship.
It isn’t changing your partner that’s the problem, the problem is what you are trying to change in your partner and how you go about it.
If you are trying to change your partner to suit yourself or your interests, then that might be a bit selfish. If you are trying to forcefully change your partner, that’s also wrong. But if you are trying to change your partner to make them better and in a peaceful way, while also trying to make them understand why they have to change certain habits and lifestyle — then that’s the way to go about it.
3. YOU MUST ENJOY WHAT EACH OTHER DO
This relationship rule is also highly flawed. You and your partner have been exposed to different backgrounds and different experiences while growing up which has shaped your interests to what they are. Forcing yourself to enjoy what your partner enjoys would definitely not work; the fact you don’t enjoy your wife’s soap opera or your husbands football match doesn’t mean you should force yourself to love it.
However, you can help them enjoy those moments they love; for example, helping your partner with a smoothie or a juice or something they love while they enjoy their favourite show would help them enjoy those moments.
4. ACCEPT YOUR PARTNER’S FLAWS
People feel that their partner should accept them the way they are with all their flaws, and because of this they become nonchalant about their flaws.
The better rule is that you should love your partner in spite of their flaws, but this doesn’t mean they shouldn’t try to improve on that flaw. If it’s possible, then it’s only fair to your partner to improve on your flaws.
5. YOU MUST DO EVERYTHING TOGETHER
This surely is pushing togetherness to the extreme and it might backfire.
Togetherness is an important part of a relationship and shouldn’t be toyed with, but this doesn’t mean you should do everything with your partner. Do the things you love together, spend lots of times together; but this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have your lone time if you need it or that you shouldn’t spend time with friends.
6. NEVER GO TO BED ANGRY
Not every relationship problem can be solved early on. Sometimes, you have to go to bed angry, think about everything and wake up feeling better. Some problems are best solved after you have slept on it.
These relationship rules can be bent to your favour to help better your relationship with your partner. The best relationship rule you can practice is to do what works for you.