TIPS: 7 WAYS TO BUILD A RESILIENT RELATIONSHIP

If you want a resilient relationship that will stand the test of time, following these tips would help you achieve that.

Below are 7 ways to build a resilient relationship

1. SPEND MORE TIME TOGETHER

Spending more time together with your partner would help you build a resilient relationship. Never be too busy for your partner. When you don’t spend quality time with your partner, your relationship might crumble when it faces challenges. If you want a resilient relationship that will overcome challenges, spend quality time with your partner always as this would help build a connection.

2. HAVE COMMON GOALS

While it’s important not to lose your individuality in a relationship, it’s also important to note that couples who share a common goal are more likely to have a resilient relationship and live in harmony. Having common goals with your partner keeps you and your partner focused on what is important.

3. LEARN TO BE IN CHARGE OF YOUR EMOTIONS

You can’t build a resilient relationship if you are not in charge of your emotions. Shouting and being aggressive when under stress only worsens the situation. Discuss issues when you and your partner are both calm. Take responsibility for managing your emotions and avoid irrational behaviours while under stress.

4. LOOK AT YOURSELF DURING ISSUES

It’s always easy to blame your partner during conflicts but that attitude won’t help you build a resilient relationship. Learn to look at the role you played when you have problems in your relationship instead of just pointing fingers at your partner. I believe both partners always have their share of the blame during conflicts in a relationship. So why focus on your partner when you should be correcting the things you did that also contributed to the conflict.

5. PICK YOUR BATTLES

You would avoid so many unnecessary conflicts in your relationship when you learn to choose your battles wisely. So many times in our relationship, we tend to have a fight with our partner over irrelevant things that don’t matter. Any time you want to argue with your partner over a particular subject, always pause and ask yourself if what you are angry about is really worth the negative energy.

6. AVOID FOCUSING ON PAST FAILURES

You can’t build a resilient relationship that would stand the test of time if you always focus on past failures of your partner. Your relationship can’t grow when you always focus on past failures of your partner. Taking the positives from past failures will help you in resolving conflicts and strengthening your relationship. Avoid constantly focusing on the negative aspects on your relationship.

7. LAUGH TOGETHER

Finding the humour in serious and stressful situations can help you build a resilient relationship. We should learn to stop taking everything too serious and see the funny side of things. Couples who laugh at themselves and always see the funny side of issues cope better as partners. We would avoid unnecessary conflicts in our relationships when we learn to see the humour in serious situations.