Relationships rarely last because couples practice the wrong principles. Falling in love with each other is important, but it doesn’t just end there; you need to practice the right principles to make that love stand the test of time, or else, it might just wither away.
With the right principles, you can actually make your relationship better and it would last longer.
If you are tired of having short-term relationships that never last then you need to start practicing these principles.
1. TRY TO LEARN MORE ABOUT YOUR PARTNER
It’s important you learn more about your partner; know what makes your partner happy, know what makes your partner angry, your partner’s fears, your partner’s dreams and goals, understand your partner’s emotions and try to understand what your partner wants in a relationship. Never stop learning about your partner; you can only understand your partner better when you learn more about them, and you should know that understanding is the bedrock for a lasting relationship.
If you can’t forgive your partner then it’s impossible to have a lasting relationship with them. Learn to forgive, learn to let go of the grudges you have for your partner. Grudges only bring bitterness which isn’t important for your relationship.
3. RESPECT EACH OTHER
Everyone wants to be respected, but many find it hard to respect others. You need to respect your partner; respect their opinions even when you don’t agree with them, respect them for the role they play in your life.
Respect is needed if that relationship is going to last long.
4. DON’T USE ABUSIVE WORDS
Sometimes, partners take each other to the gutters — with abusive words after abusive words and trading insults after insults. Partners such as these have no clue what a relationship should be like, and lasting relationships might totally elude them.
Even in your angriest moments, respect your partner enough not to insult them.
5. LISTEN TO EACH OTHER
Listening is a skill and I even call it an art. If listening was that easy, there probably would be peace everywhere. All people do is hear each other, but they don’t listen to each other, even in relationships.
When partners listen to each other, they communicate better and understand each other better.
Togetherness is another word that shouldn’t be lacking in your dictionary if you want to build a lasting relationship. Do things with your partner, have fun together — try to practice togetherness and your relationship would only blossom.
7. LEARN TO SAY SORRY AND TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS
The always right attitude is another reason relationships don’t last.
The second tip talked about forgiveness, but forgiveness is almost impossible when you can’t even apologise or acknowledge your mistake. Learn to apologise to your partner when wrong, try to take responsibility for your actions. A simple apology can save your relationship so many stress.
You should encourage your partner to be better and give support when necessary. It’s important for partner’s to be there for each other, to be supportive of each other and to make each other better.
9. SHOW YOUR LOVE
Show that you love your partner; it shouldn’t only be a thing you say but a thing you show. Try to show your partner this in almost every day of the relationship in those little thoughtful things you do for them.
10. DON’T KEEP SCORES
Stop reminding your partner of their past mistakes; this would never help your relationship.
These ten principles might sound simple, but if practiced, they can actually help your relationship stand the test of time.