Setting certain things in order before getting married would make your marriage better. There are some things couples should do before getting married; it would help set their marriage in the right direction.
Below are certain things couples ought to do before getting married.
1. DISCUSS THEIR EXPECTATIONS OF THE MARRIAGE
Marriage is usually between two different people who have spent a bulk of their lives apart and could probably have different mentality and expectations. When they discuss their expectations of the marriage, it would help give them an understanding of what they want individually and collectively — and this would help the marriage in the long-term.
2. DISCUSS YOUR PERSONAL GOALS
This is another important thing to do before getting married to your partner. A lot of the times, many couple get married without really knowing the other partner’s personal goal. It’s even worse when the husband stops the wife from working so she can take care of the family, or the wife complains bitterly about the nature of the man’s job that gives him less time for the family.
When you discuss your personal goals with each other and what it would take to achieve them, it’s easier to create an understanding and strike out a way to help balance things out.
3. KNOW EACH OTHER’S FAMILY
Like they say, marriage isn’t only between individuals but families as well. Couples ought to spend time with each other’s families — this would even help create a bond between both families, and of course, the marriage would benefit from this.
Also, you would understand your partner better when you spend time with their family; this would give you a deeper knowledge of your partner’s mentality, behaviour and mode of doing things.
4. SHARE SECRETS
Some secrets could jeopardise the marriage when it’s known at a later date. Any secret that your partner ought to know should be told before marriage. When couples do this, they even build trust among each other without knowing.
5. SPEND TIME WITH EACH OTHER
Of course you have to spend time with each; this is non-negotiable. When you spend time with each other, you learn more about each other and know how to make each other happy. It’s important to start the learning culture before marriage than when you are married.
6. BUILD FRIENDSHIPS
The fact that you are married doesn’t really mean you throw away all your friends. Friends are an important part our lives. If you and your partner can learn to build a circle of friends then it would help provide stability to your marriage and as well happiness.
7. HAVE A FINANCIAL PLAN / GOAL
Finance is an important part of everything, marriage included. It’s important for couples to have knowledge on each other’s stance on money. Don’t be shy to reveal your financial weakness as well; it would be okay if your partner knows now than later.
When couples have a financial plan / goals even before they get married, it would put less pressure on them when they are eventually married.
8. LEARN HOW TO HANDLE ISSUES
Issues usually come up when you are married, but the difference between a successful and unsuccessful marriage lies in how they handle issues. It’s never too early to learn how to solve problems and handle issues; it would help make your marriage quarrel proof.
9. LEARN WHAT YOU CAN AND CANNOT TOLERATE
If you have what you cannot tolerate in a marriage, it’s unfair to tell your partner when you are already married than before getting married. Couples should aim to know what they can and cannot tolerate before getting married. This would help keep partners in check so they don’t go out of line.
When you do these nine things before getting married to your partner, it would help set a solid foundation for a successful marriage.