It’s really fun when you meet someone who truly loves and understands you. it feels like magic and we find ourselves praying that it never ends but do you know you could possess some habits that could ruin your amazing relationship sooner rather than later?
Below are 10 habits that ruin every relationship
1. COMPARING YOUR PARTNER WITH YOUR EX
So many lovers are guilty of this habit and this is one habit that could ruin your relationship faster than you can imagine. You should understand no two persons are the same and everyone is unique. Try not to jump into a new relationship quickly after going through heartbreak to avoid comparisons.
2. TRYING TO RECREATE YOUR PARTNER
I sometimes don’t understand why people try to recreate their partners. You met that person the way they are so why try to change them into someone they are not. You should understand no one human is perfect (including you) so try not to expect unrealistic changes from your partner.
3. BEING TOO DRAMATIC
Being a drama queen or king is bad for your relationship and would definitely ruin your relationship sooner than you expect. Like I said earlier, there is no perfect person; so don’t expect a perfect partner. Everyone is entitled to make mistakes sometimes and try not to overreact when your partner makes a mistake.
4. CONSTANT ARGUMENTS
Arguments are part and parcel of every healthy relationship and don’t expect a relationship without one. Just because arguments are part of every healthy relationship isn’t no excuse to quarrel and argue everyday as it could ruin your relationship. Try not to argue over every little thing and save the arguments for more important things in your relationship.
A lot of people can’t avoid the temptation of snooping through their partner’s stuffs but the truth is that you do all that because you don’t trust your partner. If you don’t trust your partner, why be in the relationship? Trust is key for every relationship to work.
6. KEEPING SCORE
This is another habit that can ruin your relationship and it is a habit that you should avoid if you want your relationship to succeed. It amazes me when I find couples keeping track of every little detail in their relationship. Just because you called your partner for 2 hours doesn’t mean they should do same. Expecting everything you give back can cause unnecessary tension in every relationship.
7. DOING EVERYTHING TOGETHER
Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you should do everything together with your partner. Your partner needs some alone time and you shouldn’t deprive your partner of that. Many relationships crush because of partners not having an ‘alone time’ to do the things they love.
8. HOLDING ON TO GRUDGES
If you want your lovely relationship to last, then you should learn to forgive. Holding on to grudges isn’t good for any relationship and it could ruin your lovely relationship faster than you expect. You should understand that your partner would wrong you sometimes and it is expected you learn to forgive when your partner hurts you. Stop holding onto grudges.
Some people would say white lies are necessary to keep a relationship but I totally disagree. A lie no matter how little and irrelevant you think it is could destroy trust and ruin a relationship. You should ensure you build your relationship on honesty.
10. EXPECTING YOUR PARTNER TO READ YOUR MIND
It’s amazing to find lovers expecting their partners to read their mind when something is wrong. Your partner isn’t a magician so when there is an issue, try talking about it with your partner and also remember to do it at the right time too. I added at the right time because bringing up serious issues when your partner is stressed isn’t right.