Break-ups can bring about almost all sorts of pain. It not only hurts emotionally, but it can also wreak havoc on one’s mental and physical health.
In fact, broken heart syndrome has been recognized as a real condition that causes too much pain and other serious symptoms. These include the loss of appetite, sore muscles, acne and difficulty sleeping.
This article aims to help all the broken-hearted out there to rise above the pain. For those of you who were lucky enough not to experience such pain but could be thinking “What am I going to do in case my girlfriend broke up with me?”, then you have to keep reading.
Findings from a 2011 study which was published in PNAS or Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences revealed that romantic rejection causes areas of the brain that were linked to feelings of pain to be activated.
This goes to say that the pain of being rejected or dumped is something that shouldn’t be taken lightly. You have to find ways how to cope with it so as to avoid it from tearing you apart physically, mentally and emotionally. Here are three steps to take in case your girlfriend broke up with you.
1. Be positive that you’re going to be ok.
No doubt breakups do suck but believe that you’re going to be okay sooner or later. Sometimes the pain is just too much and the thought of losing your girlfriend would cloud your brain, making it too difficult to think clearly. Feelings of embarrassment could be overwhelming. By now, you may feel like your world has turned upside down. These feelings are also compounded by the thought of losing your dignity.
However, no matter how worse these feelings and thoughts may seem you have to be positive that everything is going to be okay for you. Whether you saw such breakup coming or not, the pain would still be just as unbearable. But, the good news is that as the one on the receiving end, you have all the discretion in terms of how to respond to such situation.
Keep in mind that you have to keep your dignity as much as possible. You know you’ve been torn to pieces deep inside but your ex does not have to see you this way. Continue to hold your head up high and develop a mindset that you’re far stronger than the pain of rejection.
2. Resist the urge to plead.
Pleading won’t do you any good at all. It will only make you look desperate and stupid in front of your ex. You are free to express that you do not agree with her decision. You can also tell her that you are hurt by her decision. But, as mentioned earlier, you have to keep what’s left of your dignity as much as possible.
Never let your girlfriend see you as someone who’s needy, someone who would literally die if she leaves you because doing this would only mean you’re giving her all the victory of making you feel like a loser. Cry if you may, but don’t plead. It’s definitely not the end of the world for you. It’s a big world out there where you’ll find plenty of opportunities to be happy and of course, a million fish in the ocean.
3. Never lose your cool.
Breakups can cause extreme emotions to affect the person on the receiving end.
But, when your girlfriend broke up with you the last thing that you would want to happen is to come off looking like one huge pathetic individual. So, just keep your cool and be brave enough to receive such blow no matter how painful it may seem.
Resist the urge to look hysterical even though you know you’d want to cry your heart out in front of her. By keeping your cool, you are making your girlfriend realize that you are mature enough to deal with the situation.
By keeping your cool, you’ll find it easier to avoid saying and doing negative things right there and then. It will make it easier for you to show to her that you respect her decision. Most of all, if you keep your cool you are less likely to do and say things that you may regret later.
Do you know what’s the good side of this breakup? You will find yourself learning a lot from it. So, once you’re ready to give love another try you will have more chances of having a happy and successful relationship since you’ve already learned how to navigate through it in a better and more positive way.