DISTRESSING THINGS PEOPLE WANT TO KNOW ABOUT SEX BUT FEAR ASKING

Could I have accidentally peed the bed during sex? .If the condom is intact and you’ve ruled out the possibility that the wet spot came from him, take a discreet sniff. Does the wet spot smell like urine? If so,

There’s your answer. There’s often a tiny bit of fluid left in the bladder even after women use the bathroom, says Lauren Stretcher, MD, assistant professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern University’s Feinberg School of Medicine. Certain sexual positions — such as the missionary — can put enough pressure on that area to cause it to leak.

If this happens only once in a while, then there’s no need to worry. If the fluid has no odor or a musky scent and you’re about to have your period, then, Stretcher says, you may have ejaculated. (Hey, it happened on “S’ex and the City,” so it could happen to you, too!) “But if you’re regularly leaking urine, it could be a sign of incontinence,” she says. She advises strengthening your pelvic-floor muscles through Kegels (seriously, they work!) and consider bringing this up with your gynecologist or a women’s health physical therapist.

Why do I sometimes laugh or cry uncontrollably during sex?, “Sex is a neurological and emotional event,” says Debby Herbenick, a research scientist at the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University and the author of Sex Made Easy. In other words, it’s intense, and getting naked (physically and otherwise) with someone can trigger unexpected feelings.
An emotional reaction could also be due to hormones, where you’re at in your menstrual cycle or fears you have about the relationship. You know yourself best: If you feel something’s not right, consider bringing it up with your partner or with a therapist.

I’m nowhere near menopause, but I’m as dry as the Sahara down there even when I’m in the mood. How can this be? .There are lots of factors involved in keeping the vagina naturally lubricated, but anything that sabotages your hormone levels or your bl00d flow throughout the body can dry you out, says Stretcher, who is working on a book about sexual health. She also says that about 5 percent of women taking oral contraception experience vaginal dryness yet even some gynecologists neglect to make that connection.

Other culprits that have nothing to do with age include antihistamines, breastfeed, chemotherapy, in vitriol fertilization and diabetes. (An easy solution: Stretcher recommends applying a good silicone-based lubricant, like Wet Platinum, before sex.)