A sperm donor who has fathered 78 children and currently has 13 women pregnant has told explained that he just ‘can’t say no.’
New York college professor Ari Nagel, 44 – also known as The Sperminator – was asked on today’s episode of The Dr. Oz Show about his motivation for helping women have babies, and whether ‘narcissism’ plays a role.
‘No. Maybe I’m not good at saying no,’ Ari replied. ‘I would describe myself that way, but definitely not. I have a great life, even if I struggle financially. I get lots of hugs and kisses every single day.’
Ari – who doesn’t charge for his services – continued: ‘I think the motivation of why I help these women, in some ways, why does anyone have kids? I think in some ways I’m getting a lot of the joy and love that a lot of other parents experience.’
Ari previouslyÂ revealed he used to conceive ‘the old-fashioned way’ and would have sex with the women to help them conceive.
However, since learning of other ways to conceive, he nowÂ delivers his sperm in a ‘cup’ so that he is able to protect himself and the other women he’d be helping that month.
During today’s show, he explained why he began donating so frequently – when many men haven’t thought of doing it once, let alone 77 times.
‘I have two 12-year-old kids and I think it’s quite indicative of maybe the women that you have here on the show today,’ explained Ari.
‘One was a lesbian couple and they needed help, obviously, to grow their family, and then the other one was a single woman who wasn’t meeting Mr. Right. she was in her 40s and she needed help and she couldn’t wait any longer to meet somebody.’
‘Then you asked me why I’m helping them. It’s brought me a lot of joy seeing how happy the kids are, how happy the moms are, and seeing all these beautiful families that I was able to help grow.’
Though many sperm donors never meet the children they father, or might have limited contact with them, Ari has previously said that he has relationships with several of his kids.
Speaking to Dr. Oz, Ari also discussed his experience with the State Department of Health and defended his right to continue donating sperm.
‘Well, they wrote me that letter, certified, it went to my work,’ he said. ‘I think they just read an article in the New York Post and they said, “What’s going on here? He needs to apply to be a licensed clinic,” and that I need to stop advertising my services.
‘But in the end, I think when I clarified what I’m actually doing, it’s ultimately an infringement on every man’s right, I think, to have a child.’
‘I think that they did back down, they said they reserve the right to pursue legal action in the future, but for now, I can continue doing what I’m doing, because of course, I’m not operating a licensed sperm bank.
Earlier this year, Ari appeared onÂ Claire Bryne LiveÂ in the UK to discuss his sperm donor habit.
‘I’ve never charged any of the women for helping them grow their families. Of course, I do get paid with lots of hugs and kisses and a lifetime of appreciation,’ he said.
‘I get a lot of joy of being a father to so many kids. Some of them I see every day, some of them I’ve never met. It’s up to the family.’
Though many of the women he helps are based in the US, which ‘make it much easier,’ others are abroad and require some travel.
‘I went to Africa twice last month to try and meet women to help them conceive. The month before that I was in Barbados and then Georgia, the country, not the state,’ he said in May.
‘The month before that I went to Russia, so sometimes travel is involved but the vast majority of the time they are within the US.’
He went on to explain that the 13 women who are currently pregnant by him all received his sperm in a cup and artificially inseminated themselves – but occasionally, when the women are older, they may go to a clinic.
However, he added: ‘Around a dozen of my children were conceived the old fashioned way. Early on when I didn’t really know of another way to conceive that was the way I was going about it.
‘But of course, now that I’m helping more than one woman in a month it’s very difficult to have unprotected sex while still being able to protect myself and the other women I’d be helping that month.’
Ari currently appears to be single, and his dating profiles state that he is a 6ft 3in Jewish man with a graduate degree who never smokes but sometimes drinks alcohol and works out.
The Leo, who lives in Brooklyn, asks: ‘Are you ready to make love your greatest aim? I want to meet someone who will experience the joy of falling in love with me and then you will get it back in abundance.’
But according to theÂ New York Post, he was actually married for many years while donating his sperm, against his wife’s wishes.
In 2016, Ari and Roxanne had been married for 12 years with three children ages 12, five, and two, when Ari spoke to the New York Post – and seemingly caught his wife off-guard.
A comment on the post article, apparently fromÂ Roxanne, said she was ‘devastated’ by the article and ‘had no idea this was happening.’
When reached for comment by the Post, Ari admitted she was ‘livid’ and ‘yelling at me a lot’ after the article, but seemed to justify his actions by saying that their ‘complicated’ marriage had been shaky for some time and they slept in separate bedrooms.
‘She was never happy about all these other kids, but she tolerated it,’ he said.Â ‘She knew what was going on, she didnâ€™t support it. She always wanted me to be a regular, traditional spouse.’
Speaking to the Post, Roxanne commented: ‘I have nothing to say. Whatâ€™s done is done.’
With 78 children and 13 more on the way, Ari is fast approaching fatherhood of 100 – a number he could reach with incredible speed.
It was only June of 2019 that he was celebrating the birth of his fiftieth child by sperm donation.
Ari helped Kaienja Garrick, then 18, get pregnant with baby Kaidee, making her baby the 15th he’d helped conceive in just one year.
Mother-to-be Kaienja was homeless and staying at the East River Family Center in East Harlem, New York, and found Ari’s services online.
‘I never asked her age – I try to help whoever asks. I think Kai is more mature than I was at her age after everything she has been through,’ he told the New York Post.
He added about her living situation: ‘I think it’s a nice shelter. It’s probably nicer than my apartment.’
Kaienja – who is in a same-sex relationship – was inspired to get pregnant because she practically raised her seven-year-old sister before moving out of her mother’s Jamaica, Queens home due to arguments, she says.
She searched online to avoid paying out big money to conceive.
Kaienja’s Georgia-based father Keron Garrick helped plan a baby shower, at which Ari was present and gifted the mom-to-be a Google reading device.
Some of Ari’s other mothers attended the shower as well, but Kaienja arrived late and didn’t get to meet them all.
‘They were great and I’m so grateful,’ she told theÂ New York PostÂ about the encounter, adding that she’ll get her child to inquire about the backgrounds of potential dates because Ari ‘has so many kids, you don’t know who the siblings could be’.
Ari also revealed that some of the mothers he has helped have asked for child support, but hinted he may not have the funds to provide what they need.
‘Although I struggle financially, I feel rich with joy and love and am so blessed to be a part of so many wonderful families,’ he told the Post. ‘It would be crazy if I was raising them on my own, but there are over 50 amazing, loving moms that are doing a great job raising the children.’
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