When you and your partner live in different cities (or even countries), you might spend most of your energy trying to build a quality connection with each other across the miles.
But a number of subtle mistakes that long-distance partners make might not be the ones you expect, but could be powerful enough to lead to a breakup.
Instead of addressing issues with communication or reoccurring fights that youâ€™re having, you might write these problems off as what just comes with the territory when youâ€™re in a long-distance relationship.
But itâ€™s crucial not to let issues in your relationship slide if youâ€™re planning on being reunited in person. Here are some subtle mistakes that people can make in a long-distance relationship.
1. Doubting the legitimacy of the relationship
If the people in your life are suggesting that your long-term relationship isnâ€™t as valid or as â€śrealâ€ť as it would be if your partner lived in your city, it can be easy to let their opinions affect the way you see your own relationship. Even if your partner is far away, your bond with them can be as deep and true as any other coupleâ€™s connection.
2. Trying to resolve fights late at night
If youâ€™ve ever asked older couples what their best advice is, youâ€™ve probably heard â€śdonâ€™t go to bed angryâ€ť over and over again. While this saying might be helpful in some situations, itâ€™s certainly not a rule to live by, especially if youâ€™re in a long-distance relationship.
3. Trying to talk all the time
Itâ€™s definitely good to stay connected with your partner throughout the week, when youâ€™re in a long-distance relationship, you can sometimes accidentally overdo it, which can actually create problems. If the relationship is committed and healthy, you shouldnâ€™t feel the need to stay constantly in touch.
4. Not asking for attention when you need it
We often think that our partners should automatically know that we want them to make more time for us. However, all too often we fail to pick up on the signals. While itâ€™s not wise to talk with your partner constantly, communication is definitely vital for a healthy long-distance relationship, so if you donâ€™t ask for attention when you need it, the relationship might deteriorate.
5. Not scheduling fun virtual dates
When youâ€™re in an in-person relationship, you get to build plenty of fun memories with your partner by doing things like going to the opening night showing of a movie, cooking dinner together, or playing board games. Long distance makes it more challenging but watching movies, having dinner together, or video chatting while doing the same activity can increase emotional intimacy.
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