Love and the people in it can sometimes be more powerful than the challenges at hand.
Though many would advise against it, experts say it is possible if both sides are prepared to put in the time and effort.
Anyone who has left a relationship knows how tough it can be to navigate life with an ex.
Emotional and bodily boundaries are crossed.
Because they are acquainted, it is quite easy to picture a future with them.
It’s soothing, and when you’re grieving the loss of a prior connection, the need to get back under the covers of recognition is strong.
However, rekindling romance with a past love is not always a good idea.
There are explanations for why it didn’t work the first time, and these problems are typically challenging to fix.
But if you do come to a crossroads with an ex, it can be quite challenging to see the bad sides.
What signals should you look out for that warn you against trying to reconcile with a former partner once more?
- Resistance to change;
According to psychotherapist Noel McDermott, learning more about what caused the relationship to end can be very enlightening.
In other words, the relationship won’t last if the issues aren’t fixed.
The first thing to consider, he advises, is if the problems that led to the breakup of the partnership have been remedied.
“Ask yourself if you, your ex, or both have made the necessary psychological changes and modified your negative behavior?
“If not, then you don’t rekindle your relationship.”
- No love or physical attraction;
Noel also highlights the significance of modern emotional and sexual attraction.
“If you’ve changed, ask yourself if you still love each other. The emotional chemistry is frequently lost when we undergo personal change, he claims.
You should also consider whether your attraction to one another hasn’t faded. If not, don’t start a new relationship.
“Start over, but one of the reasons why people are reluctant to switch relationships is because of dread of the unknown.”
- Serious lingering issues;
Additionally, Noel advises people to give considerable consideration to their own health, particularly if their ex has pressing problems that need to be resolved.
It won’t work if the relationship didn’t last the first time if there are active drug issues, anger issues, or major long-term mental health problems, he says.
“If you’re the target of these thing, you’ll get hurt.” Going back to your partner if they are emotionally unavailable can prevent you from growing personally.