Discerning whether you are called to let go of someone or not can be emotional, stressful, and disappointing. After all, you don’t want to risk losing The One you love.
If you have ever been in a situation where you had that tugging feeling that God is telling you to end a relationship, then you already know that it’s not fun.
But we know that when know that everything works together for our God, if it’s ordained by God. And the longer you wait, the more painful it gets.
But it’s so true. There are always clear signs God is telling you to let go of someone if the relationship is not ordained by Him.
But it’s up to you to recognize them. Here are 4 signs that will help you discern when God tells you to let go of someone:
- You have a feeling
Whenever God tells you to let go of someone, he will show you with very subtle signs in the beginning. Oftentimes through something as simple as your gut feeling and intuition.
Yes, you and me we both have an intuition, whose primary job is to keep us from harm. And I know that to some people that might sound very vague and strange. However, it is not.
When you accept Christ as Savior, the Holy Spirit comes to live in your heart and guides you through life. He is the one that helps you discern right from wrong and connect to God on a personal level.
Therefore, if you have a feeling that something is off with your boyfriend and do not have peace about the relationship, then trust that feeling. Trust that God is leading you in this situation and giving you subtle signs to move on.
- He disregards your boundaries
Boundaries are very important in a relationship. They protect your well-being and serve as a measuring tool for respect.
If your boyfriend crosses your boundaries every time the two of you are together and it makes you feel uncomfortable, then that is how you know when God is telling you to let go of someone.
A relationship in which you repeatedly feel disrespected, bad about yourself, or can’t be authentic is not the relationship you want to be in.
Instead, you want to be in a relationship where you feel like yourself and like you are being heard. And yes, letting go of someone you love is heartbreaking at worse, but that is still not as dangerous as losing yourself.
- You don’t enjoy your time together
Meaning you and your man should feel like you are best friends and enjoying your time together. Maybe not all the time, but most of it.
And I would argue that if you are not having fun, then you are unequally yoked. Yes ladies you can be unequally yoked, even if both of you are Christians.
Maybe because you are not attracted to each other physically, mentally, or emotionally. Maybe because you have nothing in commons every time you meet there is little to talk about.
Or maybe because you have different values and now most of your hangouts end in arguments.
All of these reasons, may be a sign that is telling you to let go of a relationship.
Because the truth is, God will send you a man that you enjoy spending time with. And even though the relationship may not be perfect, it will feel easy and loving and fun!
So, if you feel like these are signs god is telling you to move on then you have to break things off. That way you make space for the right guy to come into your life.
- You constantly feel stressed
Feeling anxious, distrustful, and overwhelmed are not the emotions that describe love. And if that is how you are feeling in your current relationship then you wan to rethink that.
When you meet the one God has for you then you will feel at peace, loved, and aligned in your relationship. However, if you constantly feel stressed then it simply means he is not the one.
Remember that God is always speaking to you. Sometimes he will speak through very subtle signs such as feelings and emotions. And sometimes he will use very obvious signs, such as people or situations.